Stop calling women multitaskers
Let me burst your bubble- women are not multitaskers- nobody is.
How many times have people told you that you’re good at multitasking because you are a woman? While at first, it may seem something to be proud about- because men are praising us- deeming us more- ‘good at multitasking’ is a backhanded compliment.
Let’s think about it- what is multitasking? It is doing multiple things at the same time. Multitasking doesn’t take your entire attention- it is when a person does with over three things in mind. It concludes with them not finishing even one task with utter focus. Earlier today, I was discussing this entire concept of multitasking with my friend who told me:
“It’s just that women are expected to multitask at few things just because they are women. And men are allowed to choose their tasks.”
Now that I think about it, it does make a lot of sense. What do you imagine when you think of a woman who multitasks? Don’t you see a frustrated woman working with a child in one hand, a pan in another (indicating cooking)?
Now, let me guess what you think of men who multitask. You see:
Wow, I am appalled to see how male-multitaskers are perceived in the world. It’s horrifying. My simple question is- why are men deemed like this? Truly, men do have a choice in what they multitask in.
Multitasking is extra work. It is funny that people think women are biologically efficient to multitask- that some genes cause them to strain themselves to burn out.
All our lives, we have glorified multitasking under the facade of compliments. Just how ‘girls get more mature than boys’ is offensive and promotes these manchildren to exist- similarly, saying that women are good multitaskers is offensive and promotes unhealthy standards for women to be ‘perfect’ 24/7.
I am not here to hate on men- I love men. But what bugs me is the fact that patriarchy has divided this world into two traditional categories of men and women wherein men are expected to be alphas- they need to have better jobs than their wives and need to earn two times more than her. While women are expected to bear kids, plan parties, make food and work if she has the time to work.
Despite women being independent, despite them defying patriarchy- some women abide by it; some men live in these unrealistic standards set by the patriarchy- most times succumb to it. Thus, my fight is not against men but against the patriarchy that deems women as great multitaskers and men as heroes.